A love story is still worth celebrating, even when the ending isn’t what we thought it would be.
For more than 44 years, my parents shared a love story that was real, honest, good, and hard.
Not the kind you see on a movie screen with the right music in the background, or the characters played by leading men & women. No, my parents shared in a love story that shouldn’t have made sense, but it did.
A California kid & a Colorado girl who, by all intents and purposes, shouldn’t have made it, created a love story all their own. Full of risks and full of joy. Full of heartaches and full of hope.
They met. Got married. Grew together. Stayed together. Raised a family together. Grew their family together. Worked together. Made ends meet together. Trusted God together. Prayed together. Laughed together. Cried together. Adventured together. Fought together. Fought for each other together. Believed together. Lived out vows together.
Last year, we watched as our Mom kissed our Dad goodbye. She thanked him.
We stood there in the apartment- myself, my sister and my husband, and watching and crying as she thanked him for the years they spent together and for the beautiful family he gave her. And as our kind and gracious funeral director left the apartment, Mom grabbed onto my sister and I, holding us firmly by our arms. I’ll never forget what she told us with tears in her eyes and with a trembling in her voice…she encourgaed us to love our families.
These are the words we have seen our mom live out everyday for years, especially in the last years of our father’s life.
In that moment, she never stopped loving him. She didn’t forget all the good from their life together. She remembered the good, and so did we. She thanked him and also encouraged us to love. If you know our Mom, you know she lives from a place of love, so here response to us was fitting – because that’s what she does. She loves.
Mom & Dad’s love story was worth celebrating then, and today, on what would’ve been their anniversary, it’s still worth celebrating. That kind of a love story – the kind you choose, the kind you work for, the kind you sacrifice for, the kind you ache for is still worth celebrating.
Maybe you’re family is walking on this similar path of grief, and these anniversaries and holidays feel really, really tough. We get it; we truly understand. But no matter how long our love has lasted, no matter how brief it was, that love is still worth celebrating.
Today, I’m choosing to celebrate the love that our parents shared. Today, we as a family will give thanks to God for the love He allowed our parents to share for so many years. It’s still worth celebrating – even through the tears and the ache. Today, I’ll love my people a little harder in honor of my parents’ love story. I’ll also pause in the midst of the grief to try and encourage others to love their people too. After all, Mom still continues to love every single person she comes in contact with. May we know that love is still worth celebrating in the midst of the grief and heartache, and may we make it a point to love and appreciate each moment we have with our loved ones. Let’s love well my friends.
Go The Extra Mile: In honor of our Dad, I wanted to share one of his favorite songs. I can imagine he’s cruisin’ the streets of heaven blasting this song. He loved taking drives and listening to good music, and this one always makes me think of him. Thank You Rare Earth for reminding us to celebrate. Take a listen and take a drive and remember to celebrate love today friends.
6 thoughts on “Celebrating Love In The Midst Of Grief”
Beautiful! And I’m also crying. Our moms are Facebook friends now, it’s cute
Thank you so much Nina- I too was in tears while writing it out. I love that our moms are friends during this stage of life- they are some strong and amazing women💕
Oh Liz, you mom is one of the sweets persons I know. Thank you for sharing you parents love story and their live not only for each other but for everyone. Your mom messages me all the time. I’ve called her on messenger and it so sweet to hear her.
Thank you so much friend for reading the post and for sharing in their life together! And thank you for loving and staying in contact with mom- she absolutely loves you guys and I know my dad loved y’all too!❤️
Death and the loss of a loved one is very shocking. It leaves us confused and speechless.
I have learned that death is another part of life and brings us to another stage of life.
The short separation from our loved ones is just a short time.
I have so much that I have learned for my loved ones that have passed. It seems that with their passing what they have taught me has come alive to guide my life even more.
I have so many great memories to be thankful for.
God has helped us with our grief and we have a lot to look forward to.
Indeed Tobi- our experiences with loss give us more lessons on how to live and enjoy this life, even in the hardest days when grief makes us ache. There is still joy in the midst of grief because of the beautiful memories we can treasure our whole life long.
Thank you for checking out this message! -Liz:)